Conversation Topics

First and Second Date: (generally 3 hours)

Family including: Grandparents, cousins, uncles etc

Community including: Shul, neighbors, what was it like growing up in your hometown

Interests including: What are you passionate about, last exciting experience, random fun fact about you

Friends including: Introvert vs extrovert

Seminary/Yeshiva including: Curfew, food, Shabbos, daily schedule

Summers including: Camp, bungalow, trips

Hobbies including: Reading, sports, restaurants, talents

Music including: Instruments, dancing, favorite singers and genres

Travel including: Family trips, midwinter vacation, favorite destination

Favorite Books/Speakers/Podcasts

Job including: Your job, her job, parents' jobs, what made you choose it, do you enjoy it

Jewish Geography

Personal Tastes including: Food, music, furniture, art, clothing

Mid Dates: (generally 4-6 hours)

Technology including: Movies, Secular Music, Social Media, Internet Filters

Learning vs. Working

Money Attitude including: Living comfortably vs. Kollel lifestyle

Kids going off the derech

Drinking, Smoking, Vaping, Weed, Ayahuasca

Bucket List Items

What's your idea of fun?

If you could give a TED Talk, what would it be about?

What would you do with extra hours in your day?

If you could choose anywhere random in the world, where would you live?

Attitude towards Israel

Favorite Jewish Holiday

What do you like about being Jewish?

Mentorship and Daas Torah

People You Admire including: Who inspires you and why

Life-Changing Experiences

Fears

Happiest, Saddest, Scariest, Embarrassing, Meaningful Moments

Greatest Accomplishment

Significant Failure

Personal Development Struggles/Achievements

Biggest Regret

Male/Female Roles in the Home

How you get along with different personality types

Things that get you angry or depressed

Family Dynamics

Why you want to get married

Life Goals including: 5 year, 10 year plan, how you hope to get there, what you feel you really need to work on before you can achieve your full potential

Final Dates:

Where You Want to Live

How You Envision Shabbos in Your Future Home

Expectations of Your Spouse

Koveia Ittim Plan

Career Expectations with Children

Finances including: Savings, credit card debt, student loans

Family Planning