Conversation Topics
First and Second Date: (generally 3 hours)
Family including: Grandparents, cousins, uncles etc
Community including: Shul, neighbors, what was it like growing up in your hometown
Interests including: What are you passionate about, last exciting experience, random fun fact about you
Friends including: Introvert vs extrovert
Seminary/Yeshiva including: Curfew, food, Shabbos, daily schedule
Summers including: Camp, bungalow, trips
Hobbies including: Reading, sports, restaurants, talents
Music including: Instruments, dancing, favorite singers and genres
Travel including: Family trips, midwinter vacation, favorite destination
Favorite Books/Speakers/Podcasts
Job including: Your job, her job, parents' jobs, what made you choose it, do you enjoy it
Jewish Geography
Personal Tastes including: Food, music, furniture, art, clothing
Mid Dates: (generally 4-6 hours)
Technology including: Movies, Secular Music, Social Media, Internet Filters
Learning vs. Working
Money Attitude including: Living comfortably vs. Kollel lifestyle
Kids going off the derech
Drinking, Smoking, Vaping, Weed, Ayahuasca
Bucket List Items
What's your idea of fun?
If you could give a TED Talk, what would it be about?
What would you do with extra hours in your day?
If you could choose anywhere random in the world, where would you live?
Attitude towards Israel
Favorite Jewish Holiday
What do you like about being Jewish?
Mentorship and Daas Torah
People You Admire including: Who inspires you and why
Life-Changing Experiences
Fears
Happiest, Saddest, Scariest, Embarrassing, Meaningful Moments
Greatest Accomplishment
Significant Failure
Personal Development Struggles/Achievements
Biggest Regret
Male/Female Roles in the Home
How you get along with different personality types
Things that get you angry or depressed
Family Dynamics
Why you want to get married
Life Goals including: 5 year, 10 year plan, how you hope to get there, what you feel you really need to work on before you can achieve your full potential
Final Dates:
Where You Want to Live
How You Envision Shabbos in Your Future Home
Expectations of Your Spouse
Koveia Ittim Plan
Career Expectations with Children
Finances including: Savings, credit card debt, student loans
Family Planning